How to tackle a bad day

 Mental health takes first place.

I’m writing this as i’m sat outside trying to calm myself down from a peak in anxiety. I struggle day to day with both anxiety and depression some days it’s like i feel normal and others there can be a real drop. I have both medication and therapy and am very open about my experiences as i think the stigma needs to stop, no more should you be embarrassed that you have to be medicated to feel better or that you need that safe space in therapy because I’d be nowhere without both of them. 

I have struggled for the majority of my life going from being a very anxious child but not realising what it was and it being referred to as my anxious belly (because it makes me feel very sick and significantly reduces my appetite) to growing up and realising that there is something more there. I started therapy nearly three years ago. At first i was with a lady who didn’t suit me at all, i never opened up and didn’t feel comfortable we also had a conversation where she openly said that she didn’t believe me and there is nothing wrong with me. It was at that point and with the help of my mum i realised i needed to see someone else. The next therapist is the one i still have to this day we have been working together for over two years and is someone I owe my life too. Which is a very difficult thing to say because it’s not something nice you want to admit. 

Getting to the point i want to make, how to tackle a ‘bad day’. I put that in quotation marks as it doesn’t always mean that if you wake up feeling sad it has to be the whole day if you put yourself first you can change it into a bad morning or a bad hour.

Lots of people preach about ways to tackle it but it’s a very personal process. I know for sure that doing exercise will make me feel somewhat happier but i also know that in that moment if someone tells me i need to exercise that’s the last thing i feel like i could do. If all you can manage is getting out of bed or sitting up in bed and putting on your favourite show, making a comforting drink like a cup of tea or a hot chocolate or even you favourite smoothie then your still putting yourself first.

In your own head work out what it is that can make you feel even 1% better and try to accomplish that and carry it on, take it hour by hour minute by minute don’t rush ahead of what could happen. 

I know for me if i wake up feeling sad i will put on my favourite show (which is often something like bobs burgers or South Park) walk downstairs and see me dog Lando, which is the dog at the top of the blog (after Lando Norris ofc) Lando is a little white and brown Havenese and the sweetest dog i know, he is 10 months old and is always a happy chappy. (There are more pictures on my Instagram which is linked on the blog page)

All I’m saying is do what you know will make you feel better you don’t need to live up to expectations and go run 5km or read a whole book take it easy and do you.

Au revoir

Zoe